Mary Coles Payne, born 1745, married 1761 in Hanover County, Virginia; Mary Coles was a Quaker, John Payne an Episcopalian. In 1764, he applied for membership in her meeting house and was accepted. In 1766, they moved to North Carolina with other Quaker families. In 1769, they returned to Virginia. In 1783, they settled in Philadelphia.
After her husband's 1792 death, Mary Payne briefly opened their home to boarders, including Congressman Aaron Burr of New York. Several years later, Burr introduced the widowed Dolley Todd to Congressman James Madison of Virginia. In 1793 Mary Payne moved to " Harewood, " the home of her daughter Lucy Washington, in Berkeley Springs, West Virginia. She died at home of Mary Jackson, in October 1807.
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