'Children with first wife, surname DARLING: ... EBENEZER, born Mendon, MA 25 August 1718 (MVR, 64); perhaps living 1802 when Mary is called his wife, not his widow; married Smithfield, RI 25 February 1745 ... (Arnold 3:30) MARY HAKES, born say 1723, died New Lebanon, NY 11 June 1802 "in 80th year" (gravestone, West Lebanon, NY cemetery), daughter of Solomon and Anna (Billings) Hakes.'