2) The births of Mary and Lydia do not appear in the Connecticut VRs. However the DAR and the Mayflower Society seem to agree that Mary was a daughter of Thomas and Lois (Cass) Rowley. Based on her estimated age at death, Lydia would be younger than Mary. However as there is no definite birth nor death date for Mary, it is possible that Mary was younger than Lydia.
3) The Wilson and Rowley extended families lived near each other in the Addison/Rutland Counties of Vermont during and after the American Revolution and were obviously well-acquainted. Ebenezer Wilson and Thomas Rowley Sr. and his sons Thomas Jr., Reuben and Nathan appear in the list of freemen of Danby in 1778. In 1779 and 1780 Thomas Rowley Sr. was Moderator and Ebenezer Wilson was Constable. In 1783 Ebenezer Wilson was Moderator. It was during this time that Ebenezer Wilson married Lydia Rowley.
4) Based on the births of their oldest children, it appears that Lydia married before Mary, however no records of their marriages have been found. Probably Lydia met and married Ebenezer during his Revolution military service in Vermont. Then Mary met and married Noah after the remainder of Michael Wilson's family moved to Vermont after the war.